Lesson Three: Cut The Excuses

Happy birthday to me!!!!

I am officially 24 years old and I would like to thank God for allowing me to see another year!

I am going to keep this short and simple….

Whatever you want to accomplish in life…DO IT!

You want to start a business…DO IT!

You want to travel…DO IT!

You want to relocate…DO IT!

You want to buy a house…DO IT!

Whatever it is, cut the excuses and just do it!

When you get rid of the reasons for why you cannot do something…you discover all of the reasons why you can.

I decided to cut the excuses and to face my fears head on, and create the life my future self would thank me for.

What will you decide to do?

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Lesson Two: Forgiveness

In order to move forward in life…you have to forgive those that have hurt you.

I have adopted the mindset to forgive those that have hurt me. And I am not referring to the, “I forgive you but I am going to bring what you did up constantly.”

I have truly learned to forgive people.

I forgive people for me.

Not only have I learned to forgive others for hurting me.

I have learned to forgive myself.

I have done some pretty crazy things in my life thus far. I realized the reason I was holding on to certain things in my life, was due to me not forgiving myself. You have to forgive yourself for the things you have done in your life.

You have to understand that we all make bad decisions and that is apart of life. Forgiving myself for my past mistakes, helped me to release a lot of pain and anger.

Forgiveness is essential to having a healthy happy life. Just take it one day at a time and before you know it, you’ll be moving forward with things within your life.

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Lesson One: Beauty Within

For 20 years, I did not know what it meant to love yourself. I always looked for love in all the wrong places.

If they thought I was beautiful or smart…I thought that.

If they thought I needed to lose weight and that I was too strong minded…I thought that.

If they no longer wanted to be with me; whether they were at fault, I questioned my worth.

My value..my worth…my beauty, was wrapped up in what a guy thought about me. I was extremely depressed during this period in my life. I did not know who I was and I hated the woman in the mirror.

On my 21st birthday, I decided enough was enough. I wanted to find out who Chelsea was. I wanted to smile at the woman in the mirror.

Although, this has been a very long journey, I finally discovered me.

I am beautiful.

I am smart.

I am enough.

My worth is not based on what some guy thinks about me. My worth is based on how I see myself.

I no longer walk with my head down. I hold my head high and walk with confidence. I know I am the ish and there is no other woman out there like me.

Why?

Because, God uniquely created me and there is not another me out there.  I now know, in order to have any successful relationship, you have to first have one with yourself.

Learn to love you.

Learn to appreciate you.

Learn to be selfish with you.

Sometimes you have to look yourself in the mirror and say, “Damn girl, you’re beautiful!”

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Life Lessons Week

I turn 24 this week!!!

Let me soak that in for a bit…okay, I’m back.

In honor of my birthday, I will be sharing with you 3 life lessons I have learned for the next 3 days.

Life by no means is easy. There is no how to guide on how to survive this thing we call life. And I am not talking about life or death survival. I am talking about not letting your mind, your dreams, your goals, die.

I will be 24 this week, and I know I have way more to learn. However, the 3 life lessons I have learned, will help guide me through the rest of my life journey.

I want you to sit back and put on your favorite pair of yoga pants, and get ready to time travel with me!

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Who Cares, You’re great!

I am not sure if you have been the kind of person who cared what someone else thought about them. I know I am guilty of being this kind of person at some point in my life. I believe the only reason why we let it affect us, is we believe on some level of what is being said to be true.

When people lie on us, we tend to not give it energy. For an example, I can say that you’re not a good friend. You would pay me no mind, because you know you’re an excellent friend. When people tell our hidden truths about us to our face, we become upset and dwell on what was said. For an example, I can tell you that you’re never going to start your own clothing line, because you do not have what it takes. You will believe what I said, because you already told yourself in secret that you did not have what it takes to start your clothing business.

You see, negative words are just that. We give them life when we decide to believe what is being said about us.

I’ve come up with 4 ways to kick the negative comments to the curb and to focus in on what you feel to be true about yourself. Keep reading to discover what those 4 tactics would be!

  1. Understand, sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you: They are just words and they will not kill nor cause harm to your life, if you do not let them.
  2. The only opinion about you that matters, is what you think about you: Learn to be okay with you. Learn to look yourself in the mirror and be like, “damn, I am fine.”
  3. You do not need anyone to support your dream/goals, but you: If you only have yourself to support your idea/dream, that’s all you need. Truth be told, when things go bad or not as planned in your business, it is you that has to pick up the pieces and come up with a master plan…not your supporters. Learn to be your own cheerleader. It will help when or if you don’t have the support.
  4. You only get one life to live; stop letting people kill your vibe: You only get one life on this earth. Why spend it sad and depressed because someone did not say nice things about you? Who cares! It is their loss anyhow for not being in your presence.

These are my top 4 tactics on how to stop letting the negative comments from others affect how I view myself.

If I missed anything, make sure to let me know in the comments!

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Be The Change

We’re always talking about how things could and should be. Well, I have something inspirational to share with you today. So, keep reading 🙂

What Gandhiji said,
Is so true,
That,
Be the change that you want to see.

Each one of us,
Can at least change yourself,
And that itself,
Is such a big force,
In changing the world
~ Aamir Khan ~

Watch the video below

Watch BE THE CHANGE (ft.Aamir Khan)

The tomorrow starts with you today!

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Love Me Unselfishly

According to the research I have done, the number one reason relationships end is because people are selfish.

**I found this interesting article and you should check it out.

Selfishness is when we are devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others (dictionary.com).  We are so stuck in this mindset of everything being about us, that we never take the time out to think about the person we are involved with. From my personal experience, being selfish can damage and if not ruin your relationship.

I believe selfishness is a way we protect ourselves in relationships from getting hurt. There is not a way to know if someone will be with you forever, so we hold ourselves back to protect ourselves. When you constantly make things about you, it is a way to ensure that you are getting everything from your romantic partner before they head for the door.

If you truly love and care about someone, the best thing to do is to give the relationship a chance. You have to love unselfishly and know that you gave and or are giving the relationship 100%. Even if the relationships ends, you would be able to walk away knowing that you were true to the relationship and did not half love your partner.

Love is a risk. Letting someone in is a risk. However, living in this world is a risk. Driving on the roads is a risk. Nothing in life is guaranteed, but death. So why not love someone who is deserving unselfishly?

Here are 4 ways to break your selfish habits when it comes to love.

  1. Put yourself in the other person shoes: When your partner is telling you that something is bothering them or is hurting them, listen to them the first time. This will show that you care about their feelings. Think about if he/she did this to you, how would this make you feel. This will allow you to become emphatic to the situation and will allow you to make the needed corrections for the situation at hand.
  2. Learn to listen: I learned in my communication classes about non verbal and verbal communication. Sometimes your partner will not verbally tell you what is going on with them or why they are upset with you. It may be the short responses or the distance that is put in between you guys in the bedroom that is telling you that something is bothering them. Learn to take the time out to listen to what is being said and unsaid. Also, if they blatantly tell you exactly why they are upset with you, do not take it lightly. 
  3. Appreciate the small things: If they take the time out of every morning to tell you that you are beautiful, but are not sending you flowers every Tuesday of the week. Do not complain they are not sending you flowers, like Shelia’s boyfriend, and that they do not care about you. That shows that you are unappreciative and it will make them feel underappreciated.
  4. Own up to your mistakes and take full accountability: There is nothing worse than someone who cannot take accountability for the things they do. When you apologize, mean it. Do not say, “I am sorry for x, but you did y.” That is not a sincere apologize and you should of had kept it to yourself. Also, do not give excuses for why you did something. Own it. “Yeah I did x and I am sorry for hurting your feelings.” You can explain why you did something, but explaining something and providing an excuse, is two different things.

There are a lot of factors that goes into having a healthy relationship. I know the media has a good way of displaying that relationships will be a walk in the park. In reality, that is far from the truth. A part from not being selfish, communication and trust are huge to having a successful relationship.

If you feel I have left out any other tips on how to break selfish habits, please let me know. I would like to see what you think and or have to say!

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Embrace YOU

Be YOU!

Teach the world how to love you.

Teach the world how to respect you.

Teach the world how to appreciate you.

Be YOU!

Aspire to embrace you.

Aspire to love you.

Aspire to appreciate you.

Be YOU!

Never apologize for being strong minded.

Never apologize for being ambitious.

Never apologize for having standards.

Be YOU!

Never settle.

Never give up.

Learn to love the woman you are.

Embrace YOU.

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Entrepreneurship Foundation

Being an entrepreneur. Building a brand and a company is a lot of work.  If someone told you going into business for yourself is easy…they lied. However, working for yourself is very rewarding. I believe working solely or partly for yourself is the greatest thing you can do.

I am not knocking anyone that does not want to build a brand or start a company from the ground up, because being an entrepreneur is not for everyone, and that is okay. This post is more so directed towards people who have or are wanting to start a business.

Although, I work for someone else fulltime, I also run my very own business fulltime. It is a challenge not being able to dedicate my full day to my business, but I manage. I am going to provide some tips on how to make sure you’re staying on track with building your business. 

*P.S: Never put in more time building some else dream over your dreams. At the end of the day, that company gets their objective accomplished…make sure you do the same for your business.

  1.  Create the time: You’ll never have the time to build and promote your business with this thing we call life. You have to create the time. If you dedicate 1-2 hours a day, that will be 7-14 hours you have put into your business by the end of the week. It may not seem like a lot, but those hours add up.
  2. Stop making excuses: This is something I am working on daily. I can come up with 10,000 reasons for why I am not writing a chapter for my new book or why I am not out here promoting and networking with other individuals. However, those same 10,000 excuses will not get me any closer to achieving my goals for my business. We have to stop making excuses for why we cannot do something and start coming up with reasons for why we can do the things needed for our business.
  3. Get organized: Being organized will help things to flow within your business and will cause less stress. I use a planner, I make notes within my phone, and post things around my home for me to remember what I have planned for the day or the week.
  4. You have to have patience: I am learning how to have patience everyday. I know you do not want to work for someone forever, but let working someone fuel you to keep going. Nothing and I mean nothing happens over night. Everything works in Gods timing and not our own. Relax and enjoy the journey.
  5. NEVER GIVE UP: This is the number one and last rule! No matter what life throws your way, never give up. Never settle or change your idea/dream to fit someone else’s plan. Life is going to happen, whether you are ready or not. The goal is to strap on your shoes and get through the storms, all while pushing yourself and your business. Trust me, you’ll be happy that you did not quit.
  6. Believe in your business/dream: There will be times where you will have people rooting for you and there will be times where you will have people wishing for your downfall. The goal is to get to the point where you do not need anyone to believe in your dream. When you reach that point, you will not care if you have people rooting for you, because you’ll be rooting for you.
  7. Know your why: Your “why” will be what will get you through the tough times. It’s best to identify what that would be in the beginning.

Those are my 7 tips on how to jump start having a successful business. Of course, there is a lot more that goes into operating a business, but these are some pretty good foundations to start with.

If you found these tips helpful let me know. If you have anything else to add let me know. Make sure to share and like the post!

How to Ruin You 20s

Nobody said growing up would be so hard!

It’s really not as bad as we have made it out to be. In fact, if you follow these 6 guidelines you’ll rock out your 20s with a bang.

  1. Stop worrying: Yes, we all have plans and sometimes things do not go as planned. In fact, the plans we put together never really happens the we have imagined. Instead,  life throws us a few curve balls and we just have to do our best with riding the wave(s). Life is beautiful and you have to stop stressing over every little thing, because you’ll look up and your 20s will pass you by.
  2. Stop comparing yourself to others: This actually should be rule number 1. We too often get caught up in social media and what other people are posting about, that we question the things we are doing. You know, you see that Jo Jo received a promotion, Jackie lost 10 pounds, Judy got married, and Sarah is traveling the world, so you start to think that you failed in life. Truth is, you have not failed. lets be honest, there is no how to guide about how to live this thing we call life. You have to realize everyone is at different spots within their lives and just because you have not reached a certain point, does not mean you never will. It is just not your time. Instead of wishing you were doing what someone else is, try congratulating them and be appreciative of the things you have going on in your life.
  3. Learn to love you: When you truly learn to love yourself, you truly unlock the key to happiness. You do not care about what others are doing or thinking about you, because you understand and appreciate the person you are and the person you are becoming.
  4. If something is making you unhappy and miserable…change it:  We often get complacent in  certain things within our lives and become afraid to make the needed change, that we do nothing. We go everyday complaining about our jobs…relationship…finances etc. Instead of complaining about the things that makes us unhappy, how about coming up with a plan to change it. If you want to start your own business, map out a plan. If you want to travel more, map out a plan. If you want to start saving money, start small and watch your money build! Don’t go another day..month…year…with being unhappy. Make the change today.
  5. Relax, you’re only in your 20s: Don’t be in a rush to be 40. Enjoy discovering you and being 20 something. However, do not be irresponsible, because it will come back and bite you. If you keep living and enjoying the life you have been blessed with, everything will fall into place.
  6. Never settle: Do not settle in any area of your life. Do not settle in your relationship. Do not settle in your job. Do not settle with your finances. Do not settle with yourself.

All in all, enjoy your life! Don’t kill your 20s by doing too much 😉

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